But what about men?
On masculine energy in collective feminine healing
Words Pia Savannah
We are experiencing a time of profound collective masculine-feminine reconciliation. A return to the heart, a remembrance of Truth, a homecoming to wholeness.
In the age of feminine empowerment and a whole menu of ‘women only’ to select from, we have long been overlooking (or self-righteously bypassing) the very core missing ingredient to our deepest healing—Men.
And in no way am I debating or denying the absolute necessity and essentiality of feminine empowerment work. The ritual of women gathering in circle is ancient, profoundly mythical, timelessly beautiful, and potently medicinal for the awakening world.
As a woman serving in the space of feminine healing, the most important (and humbling!) initiation of my own inner and outer work took place not through yet another Women’s Circle, but through opening my heart to a man’s rising into his rightful power.
As women, it is our duty to call forth and bear witness to the re-emerging Truth of sacred masculinity that in its texture is fundamentally different to what we see in the distorted out-picturing of maleness in today’s society.
Feminine healing can only occur through the return to and remembrance of the original template of Love, Union, and surrender beyond all fear.
Ironically, our desire to surrender is equally our greatest fear and our deepest longing. In our primordial feminine design, we yearn to soften into safety — a solid frame to ground and hold both the most powerful and vulnerable parts of our expression.
Provision. Protection. Presence. Pleasure. Being taken care of. Being held. Being witnessed. Being seen and respected in our deep oracular wisdom, intuitive power, and emotional sensitivity. All of this requires surrender.
And here’s the thing—men are templated to meet us here. They are protectors and providers by nature. They love taking care of us. It is their sacred duty and desire to serve and lead the Feminine, truthfully and powerfully. If we let them.
“What do we even need men for?”
I’ve heard emasculating statements such as this in ‘conscious’ circles more than once.
Women bonding over shaming men that have ‘failed’ to meet them, in other words; having to make up for the wounds carved by fathers, ex-partners, and other male figures in their ancestral lines.
I feel the wounding, the pain, blame, and hurt in such words. I understand. I hold these pieces with great tenderness. And yet, there is a natural effortlessness to the dynamic interplay of feminine-masculine polarity when we learn to trust again.
Her surrender is the prerequisite to his leadership.
THIS is the reconciliation. The real healing. When we show willingness to open and stretch our hearts beyond our hurt, beyond our sense of entitlement, beyond our immaturity.
When we forgive. When we no longer need to defend the narrative of the ‘strong, independent’ woman under the false pretence of empowerment and control.
And by no means am I claiming women should renounce leadership, self-empowerment, or independence. This is a simple recognition of the fact that the most profound expression of our feminine receptivity lies in releasing control.
If I could reference the quintessential message of the male voice of consciousness (in my own living experience), it would be along these following lines:
“We want to hold you. We want to take care of you and lead you, provide for you, but if you won’t let us, we can’t. If you don’t trust in our direction and leadership, we can’t protect you. We can’t take you deeper into pleasure if your heart is guarded. If you don’t soften, we can’t please you.”
If we, as the feminine collective, exclude men from our healing, we avoid our greatest mirror of Truth.
So, let’s welcome men into our spaces.
And this doesn’t mean naively exposing ourselves to just anyone. It means letting love in again. With discernment, sovereignty, and humility.
You can follow me @pia.savannah and join me at the upcoming Women’s Gathering themed around surrender, that I am offering. I will be inviting men in my future gatherings to offer an inclusive space of feminine-masculine connection, conversation, and curiosity.
